Introduction
Hello, this is very deep stuff to tackle… So let’s talk. I am no expert, but I know what it is to be in that place where you have fought a good fight and felt like you have given every inch of your strength. Yet the struggle still continues, as if the whole world is mocking you.
Hey, pretty soul, lighten up!!! You are aware that at this point, it seems so dark, heavy, and the pain is unbearable. I have been there too, and the good news is it will just get better. And the pain will soon be bearable if we choose to step out into that battlefield to gain a better insight into the war we are fighting.
Stepping out doesn’t mean walking away from the conflict.
When we stay too long in the same situation, we are stuck in that view we have. We are convinced it is the only logical road to salvation. Sometimes it is very good to take a time out or simply take a deep breath.
Stepping away means reassessing ourselves and the situation we are in. Why is this affecting you so much? How long would you like to allow such conflict to dominate you? Always remember, WE ARE THE SOLE NAVIGATORS OF OUR LIFE, and all that happens around us is our responsibility.
When we are ready to redirect and refocus ourselves, we walk back into the battlefield with another weapon in our hands… The weapon of Positivity.
Acknowledging your Weakness
This is probably difficult because looking at the eyes of your weakness means looking at your failures and shortcomings. But hey, we have just discussed that we will tackle this with a positive attitude.
Acknowledging your weakness means becoming vulnerable, and there is nothing wrong with it. I believe that there is no other way to build up our inner strength if we don’t know where our Achilles heel is. It is like when we have a weak back, we tend to exercise that more to make it stronger, or at school, if we are not so good with math, we then study the subject harder to have a better grade.
It is the same thing with our weakness. Having a one-on-one date with him and getting to know him better means having a deeper understanding of ourselves and why we are reacting to certain situations. Being aware of certain precipitating factors helps us become the master of our emotions.
Knowing our weakness means building up our Self-Strength.
Visualizing our Strength
Bear with me on this… I usually do this whenever I am in very difficult situations or when I am stressed and have had enough!!
Sit down, be silent, listen to your breath, and close your eyes. Imagine that there is this little fire burning within you. Feel its warmth and find it… I usually find mine in the middle of my stomach. Touch the place where that flame is glowing.
Breathe, now feel that the flame that you are touching, visualize the warmth that is exuding. This is your strength or courage or kindness, whatever it is that you need for that day.
Let that flame glow brighter, let it ignite your whole being to the point that you can smile and tell yourself it’s going to be okay.
Try this and find your innermost fire, let it burn and destroy all the negativities that your mind has.
Lastly, Have a coffee with a Friend who understands the anatomy of Trust.
In the book “Anatomy of Trust” by Dr. Brenè Brown, she has discussed the anatomy of trust and has given it an acronym, and that is ¹. BRAVING. So let’s have a cup of coffee with a friend who understands BRAVING.
She knows the BOUNDARIES and respects them. She is RELIABLE and holds ACCOUNTABLE for her actions. A Vault that whatever we will tell her dies with her. She has INTEGRITY to choose what is right over fun.
The next one is very important for me; she is NOT JUDGMENTAL about whatever story you will tell her, and lastly, she is GENEROUS to understand us.
Our friends, the real ones, are part of our inner strength. A hug, a smile, or a nod is more than enough for us to know that we are not alone in this hardest moment.
I have been through the hardest storm of my life… I have cried a river of tears, but at the end, I always humble myself down, talk to life, and thank him for the lessons that he is constantly giving me.
A beautiful soul means she has survived through the toughest times, and she is not ashamed of sharing her scars, for she believes these are part of her whole being.
For those of you who are struggling, discover that strength by knowing your weakness and limitations. When we know our vulnerabilities, we know where to find that glowing flame inside us. And believe that not all days are rainy days; the sun will soon rise.
To my friends, my dolphins, thank you for always taking the wild ride with me without any hesitation. I am forever grateful.
¹ The anatomy of trust by Dr. Brenè Brown podcast Oprah’s Super soul
